Q: I know that it could be considered douchy to sleep with a chick who you know wants to be with you, and who knows you’re only in it for the sex, but is it actually? I mean, if everyone is being straight up, everyone knows what they’re getting themselves in to.
Anonymous
A: People do this with exes a lot too, string them along because they don’t know how to, or cant meet anyone new. It’s a pretty shitty thing to do. I’ve never done that, and I generally try and avoid casual affairs with people who seem genuinely interested in me in that way.
I am sure I’ve been a shit at times, done the wrong thing plenty of times, but I will say I’m not, and never have been, on of those dudes that exclusively exchanges false hope for sex.
I think that’s shit.
People, guys and girls, will say they understand that he or she does not want more, say it’s ok with them even when it’s not.
If it’s not ok with you speak up and set some boundaries, if you’re on the other side, and you care enough about that person to sleep with them, care enough to not drown them in false hopes.
Words are meaningless when you show up and fuck him or her like you love them, then you’re communicating beyond language. Be accountable for your actions and understand that it’s easy to say one thing with your mouth and another with your actions.
I’ve struggled with this a lot, no one is perfect, but I do my best, I know I’ve selfishly turned a blind eye or two recently, but I think I’ve been doing better, and will strive to improve.
BL
